OK before you bother with that .... I have progressed after a call to godaddy --
ooops no no great people really lol
I found that I can not load the password files to a level above the home directory. The overall support there is kind of "If it isn't on a help page we can't help you." YET they offer a direct path to where the files go.. that can not be seen on my ftp program so maybe there is an ftp program that lets you indicate the path .. actually they were really non helpful other than referring me to their help pages .. where .. not having found that before I did determine that the code generator and information at the above link was not an exact match for what they require .. just for anyone with godaddy and this issue here are some relevant links to what I am referring to:
javascriptkit.com/howto/htaccess3.shtml
tools.dynamicdrive.com/password/ what comes up here is not the same as what is shown here:
help.godaddy.com/article.php?article_id=1641
and absolute path to my site is WHERE?
?
help.godaddy.com/article.php?article_id=58
OKOK BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD
and on the SSL redirect .. I found this that I have not tried yet ... any comments if I am on the right track?
support.microsoft.com/kb/239875
and then this terrible jumbled mess of instructions.. good grief..
iisfaq.com/default.aspx?View=A407&P=20
EXCEPT THE SITE is not on a windows host but linux.. that may make a huge difference?
And here is what I have decided.. If I can not get the htaccess files working like I want by the end of the day tomorrow I am going to pay for one of those per site licensed softwares that protect folders and do other member things.. out of pocket - I have already spent way way more time than I should have on this but I can't stand giving up on a challenge .. I will think of it as finding a solution not giving up!
I do still have to redirect away from all of the http pages to https some how though - I hope I figure that one out.